I'm a social scientist on a mission to help connect people and bring a little bit more love into the world. I studied Psychology at Bates College and wrote my thesis on how one's personality influences their explicit and implicit preferences for monogamy. I've been hooked on the science of dating ever since.
Working at Coffee Meets Bagel in downtown San Francisco, I saw thousands of online dating profiles and helped dozens of men and women improve their profiles each day. I know the ins and outs of every dating app on the market today, as well the pros and cons of using each one.
I can help you assemble the best photos, profile information, and messages to help you get more high-quality matches. Let's get you out on some dates!
What I do
I offer one-on-one coaching sessions to get you on the right apps and help craft your profile to set you up for success. I've seen what makes a great profile and will utilize my experience at Coffee Meets Bagel to customize your profile so that it attracts the kind of person you want to meet.
I also offer coaching on sending the right messages that will have you quickly connecting with your matches and going out on dates sooner than you think. I’ll even help you plan a few!
Online Dating is Tough:
Let's break it down into 5 Steps
Step 1: Choose your app
Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Coffee Meets Bagel, OkCupid, Match, Happn, Plenty of Fish, JDate, Grindr, ChristianMingle, Feeld, Pure: Choose your weapon! There are so many dating services out there. Which one should you use? Well...that depends entirely what you're looking for. I know the ins and outs of every dating app on the market (and even some currently in development). I can help guide you through the etiquette of each one and navigate their trends and new features as they change and develop.
Each app has its unique advantages and disadvantages with different users and intentions. The first step is choosing which app (or multiple apps) is right for you.
We'll dive into what you're looking for and choose the right ones for you!
Step 2: Select your photos
Photos are the most important aspect of your profile...period! Your profile photos should be a window into your soul for your matches. Most profiles are an amalgamation of low-quality photos, awkwardly cropped group shots, selfies with animal ears, and some don't have any photos at all. A great set of high-quality photos with a set intention behind them will help you stand out from crowd.
Don't have photos that you feel great about? If you live in the greater New York City area, I will use my Canon DSLR camera to shoot some high-quality photos of you to make your profile shine! We will highlight your best features and showcase your personality to your matches!
Step 3: Write your bio
Your bio is a chance to talk about who you are as a person. Contrary to popular belief, it doesn't have to be a cheeky one-liner or a laundry list of your interests. A great bio should establish what kind of person you are, what you like to do, and what you're looking for in a partner. It should also read as friendly and help you stand out of the crowd.
I'll work with you on how to translate your interests and personality into a welcoming bio.
Step 4: Send the right messages
Sending the right messages is arguably the hardest and most time consuming part of online dating. At Coffee Meets Bagel, when analyzing the frequency of typical first messages, I saw that a vast majority of mens' first messages just said "hey" or "what's up?" While this may work at a bar, your messages online should be thoughtful and provoke a response that will help you connect on a mutual interest. This can be anything from something interesting you see in their photos, a witty joke in their bio, or a shared hobby.
I'll coach you in delivering the perfect messages that will start making things happen for you.
Step 5: Plan your dates
The last step is actually planning your dates! The type of date that you plan can have a major impact on the chemistry that you build with your match when you go out. We'll work together to plan dates that are uniquely you!
I'll give you some suggestions for some great unconventional and conventional dates designed to help build chemistry and connection and minimize those awkward moments on first dates. As a young person in my 20’s I've tried all the wacky dates from Alcatraz on Acid to checking out the Zebras in the Zoo. I'll give you a list of at least 3-5 great ideas for each date likely to spark chemistry.
Free Intro Call
Free (Phone call)
Let's face it, most people won't even purchase a burrito without doing a bit of research first. Let's schedule a call and get to know each other.
We'll discuss your dating history, things that did and did not work, your relationship goals, and what you're looking to get out of coaching. Everyone has questions they’ve been hesitant to ask. My role is to discuss and answer each one and help build your confidence through the entire process.
Complete Profile Workshop
$150 (Remote) (2 hours) (No photoshoot included)
$150 (New York based) (2 hours) (Includes photoshoot)
In this workshop we will do a deep dive to create and polish your online dating profiles to set you up for success with matching, messaging and going on dates!
Once you sign up, you'll be asked to fill out a short survey so I can better understand your personality and hobbies, your current dating strategies, and what you're most looking to get out of coaching. I'll use this information to personalize the workshop to best fit your needs and start brainstorming content for your profile.
Together, we'll work through my 5 steps to design your profile from the ground up until we reach a point where your profile accurately represents the best, most approachable and attractive version of yourself. Then, we'll talk through strategies to change your approach to online dating save you time and energy and maximize your potential for success.
For the in-person session, we'll finish up with a photoshoot to get you some awesome high-quality photos to use for your profile. You will come out of this experience with the confidence, tools, and strategies to find and build meaningful connections!
This experience will include:
A personalized photoshoot to ensure high-quality photos for your profile (In person only)
Choosing the right dating services for you
Writing perfect bios and designing your profile
Crafting messages to quickly connect with your matches
First date ideas & strategies to connect and build rapport
Communication and conversational techniques
Follow up advice & coaching
Like most healthy relationships, I hope our relationship can be more than just a "one and done." Perhaps you have some additional questions about your dating life that need some extra love? Dating (and online dating in particular) can be a complex and confusing endeavor and I'm here to answer any questions you may have and go in depth on a wide variety of topics.
Topics may include:
First date etiquette and overcoming nervousness
Navigating ghosting and flaky dates
Having the exclusivity "talk"
Having the non-exclusivity "talk"
Relationship communication strategies
Maintaining long-distance relationships
Getting over a breakup